'Just obnoxious': Dude wears messy informal shirt when meeting girlfriend's parents, girlfriend throws a fit

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    Font - "AITA for wearing an Iron Maiden T-Shirt to my first meeting with my girlfriend's parents?" E, TAK OUR D
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    Font - AITA for wearing an Iron Maiden T-Shirt to my first meeting with my girlfriend's parents? I (28m) have been dating my girlfriend (23f) for a few months. Things have gone well; we get along well so far and I really care about her and hope things work out with us.
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    Font - Anyway she recently invited me to come over and have dinner with her parents at their home. She still lives with them for now. We are getting more serious and they wanted to meet me. If it's relevant her parents are Indian immigrants to the US and I am white.
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    Font - So, I thought it was a completely casual meeting and I wore an Iron Maiden T-shirt. I do happen to like the band but that's not even why I wore it; that's just how I dress and that shirt just happened to be clean that day. I went and met her parents and thought we'd had a good meeting.
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    Font - However my girlfriend is NOT happy with me. She feels as if me dressing in a T-Shirt rather than a nicer button-up shirt was bad enough, but that wearing a shirt with skulls on it was--in her words--"just obnoxious."
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    Font - I honestly just dressed for the meeting the way I usually do and didn't even think about it. I think that if she had certain standards that she should have communicated them to me beforehand. But she thinks that what I did was "obviously stupid and inappropriate" and that I should have known better. Is she right or is she being too critical?
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    Font - Nervous_Ticket_7395 4 days ago YTA Because you're an adult... meeting someone's parents generally isn't an overly casual thing unless they specify that their parents are casual as well. Surely you own a nicer shirt than an Iron Maiden tshirt, being an adult and all. 30.6k Reply Share
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    Font - rpsls 4 days ago OP: ... didn't even think about it. Maybe she wants someone who does put a little thought into the relationship? OP's decision here is likely to make her life harder and he don't seem to care... 15.5k Reply Share
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    Font - robot428 4 days ago . This is the entire problem. He didn't think about it. Meeting the parents of someone who you are seriously dating IS SOMETHING THAT YOU SHOULD THINK ABOUT. I don't think it's just her. I think everyone would want the person they are dating to care about meeting their parents for the first time.
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    Font - *(If someone isn't close with their parents or doesn't have parents this might be substituted with another relative or found family or a dear friend. Whoever that person is, I think everyone would want their partner to care enough to think about how they present themselves) Reply Share 6.9k
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    Font - Gatorau 4 days ago . YTA. Try to put a bit more thought into your attire when meeting people for the first time. Especially a girlfriend's parents. She didn't need to communicate her standards. You need to address your standards. Don't blame her for your lack of them. It's all on you. 10.7k Reply Share
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    Font - MrPKitty 4 days ago YTA. Yeah, dude. C'mon. High school kids have more sense than that. I realize the world is in "take me as I am" mode, but the reality is meeting the parents is a big deal. If you don't even put the most basic effort into it, you're just telling them, and your gf the relationship isn't that important to you. 6.1k Reply Share
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    Font - BUTTeredWhiteBread 4 days ago Seriously. I'm in full goblin in pj's and slippers at Walmart mode rn, but if I'm meeting someone important, I'm gonna put on something nice. 1.4k Reply Share
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    Font - Negative-Net-9455. 4 days ago I don't think anyone's hole here. Just a thei case of different expectations. But if you do like this girl, eat humble pie, say sorry and don't wear t- shirts with Eddie on them when you meet her parents next time. 4.4k Reply Share
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    Font - Purrminator1974 4 days ago 20 NAH. Sounds like you wore your usual clothes and your girlfriend expected you to dress more formally. My partner (white Australian) would do the same! This seems like a miscommunication of expectations from both sides. Having said that, as an Indian woman, I can tell you that Indian parents are super overprotective of their daughters and can have rather odd hang ups about things that wouldn't occur to a white person. The incident re the t shirt is a case in p
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    Font - OriolesrRavens1974 4 days ago. edited 4 days ago 1 YTA. 1. You always ask the new girlfriend what to wear to meet the parents. It shows you care. And 2. whether you like it or not, you didn't do your homework on Indian parents. They are EXTREMELY conservative when it comes to such things (have you never been to the movies or watched The Office?). Tradition is a huge part of their DNA, as their culture goes back over 10,000 years, whereas American culture only goes back 250 years. Tell her
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    Font - EDIT. I apologize if any of this is offensive. I was trying to be humorous. Obviously, I don't think Indian culture can be summed up by the media, but some Indians got it and like my comment. I was trying to help the poor guy think about it a little deeper, that's all. 1.6k Share
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    Font - Painkiller 17. 4 days ago S NTA I hate people that judge others by the way they dress, it's not a job interview and if it was so important she should have told you before hand. I just can't fathom expecting my newly found gf to wear heels and a dress to meet my parents, even more so, why lie and dress like the person you clearly are not? 1.5k Reply Share

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